The following is neither food nor fitness related, so if you hate lovey dovey gushing- look away now.
You’ve been warned.
Last Thursday (yes, Valentine’s Day), marked ten years since my husband and I got together. Yes, we got together on the cheesiest holiday of the year. We were teenagers, you can’t really blame us. We were married about two and a half years ago and normally only celebrate that day. But this year, we thought ten years was worth celebrating. While I would not consider myself a relationship expert, I think I’ve learned a bit this last decade…
So what have I learned in ten years?
1. Relationships are not meant to be easy. Contrary to the fairy tales, you do not fall in love and then sail off into the sunset. Instead, you actually live your life together. And just like we each do individually in life, as a couple you will struggle and you will grow together. This is a good thing.2. When it’s right, it IS easy! I know, I know, this seems to completely contradict #1 right? It doesn’t. Yes, a relationship is work and work is not easy. But when you are in the right relationship, even the hardest work, the biggest problem, seems easy to conquer together. When it is right, the love feels as easy as breathing- even when you are struggling to breathe!3. You have to compromise. This may not be my strongest trait, but it is a must. There will always be things we do not see perfectly eye to eye on. And thank goodness for that. I do not want to be married to my emotional twin. Agreeing on everything would be pretty boring.4. Have fun together. Get outside. Take a walk. Do something unexpected. Our favorite memories always seem to come out of unexpected moments.5. At the end of the day, it is the little moments that make a marriage- not the big ones. For me, I’ve found more love and more closeness in the small things- such as how my husband wakes up a bit earlier just to make us breakfast every morning, or the times I come home and find him getting the laundry going, or when he simply gives me an unexpected kiss. Those are the moments that define who we are far more than the big anniversaries, trips and decisions. Our marriage grows with each breakfast, each kiss goodnight, and each kind gesture. Point is- embrace the small stuff.
So, that is what such a short period of togetherness has taught me. Cheesy- probably. But true. I can’t wait to see what the next few decades teach us.
And if this post bored you to tears.. maybe my 10 year old prom photo, complete with terrible prom hair and a reflective dress.. will make you laugh. Yes, we went to prom together. Laugh away.